11. November 2017
Who, or what is killing the marriage? When we originally got together as a couple, we loved being together. We understood each other, wanted the same things, enjoyed a healthy sex life, and, perhaps most importantly, had a sense of belonging at home and in bed with this person. Three or four…or seven or eight…or fifteen or sixteen years later, the picture looks very different. We don't enjoy being together; talking is a strain, often leading to nowhere, or to argument; we have stopped...
12. January 2017
Everyone likes to be pleased. And we all of us put out vibes to others letting them know how it is they can please us. Some of us are very susceptible to the vibes put out by others and we fall into a pattern of succumbing: we give others whatever they seem to us to want from us to make their lives easier. This people-pleasing pattern harms us. Without fully realizing what we are doing we will unquestioningly give others the results they wish. In doing so we may suppress or not even bother to...
05. January 2017
People travel now much more than ever before. If you are a client in therapy you want to maintain progress and momentum. And, as a therapist, I want to provide continuity of care. When a face to face session is not possible the answer is provided by telemedicine. I use the VSee platform which works both on a computer and on a phone or tablet. Clients and therapists using a telemedicine platform should be aware of the limitations and constraints. In terms of felt effectiveness a teletherapy...
12. October 2016
Prospective therapy clients in the San Francisco Bay Area are among the best-informed people anywhere in the world. Counseling and therapy have been embedded in the cultural landscape for decades. But too much information can be bewildering. Especially since there are many different kinds or theories of counseling and therapy and people seem to feel quite strongly about them. The dominant paradigm for helping people with problems used to be psychoanalysis. After WWII things began to change....